Have you ever walked into a room and felt like no one sees you—let alone remembers you? In today’s episode, I’m joined by powerhouse business coach, speaker and marketing strategist Angelica Pompy, who helps creative women build profitable businesses with confidence and clarity.
Listen in as we dig into how to “get in the room,” not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and strategically. Plus we’re talking about how to stay in the room long after you’ve left.
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Why “getting in the room” is only half the battle
Many entrepreneurs think networking is just showing up with a business card and hoping for the best. Angelica reframes it: it’s about stepping into a space with intention and leaving it in a way that people remember you. You don’t need to be the loudest person or the most outgoing—you need to be the most human. That’s what people connect with.
Angelica shared a personal story about attending her first big networking event and feeling completely out of place. She didn’t have business cards, didn’t know what to say, and felt like she had nothing in common with the room. She decided to reframe the experience: “I’m here with an intention.” That changed everything.
Intention starts before you walk in
Confidence is often the result of preparation. Angelica has a simple system before heading to an event:
- A quick mirror pep talk (“Girl, you look like a snack”)
- Lip gloss (always)
- A moment to check her energy and shake off the day
- Three open-ended conversation questions ready to go
- Perhaps most importantly, she wears her brand color. For Angelica, that’s mustard yellow—a bold, unforgettable visual cue that instantly makes her memorable.
Be remembered, not just noticed
It’s easy to assume that you need to dominate the room to make an impression, but Angelica flips that script. You don’t have to be the loudest, you just need to be the most thoughtful. Ask people what they love. Not what they do, but what lights them up. Those are the conversations people remember.
She also notes that preparation includes how you look and feel. Bring a change of clothes or a touch-up kit if you’re coming from another obligation. When you feel good, that energy carries into every interaction.
Your follow-up is your secret weapon
You know what’s more important than your intro? Your follow-up. Angelica’s system for follow-up is one of the smartest I’ve seen.
She connects on Instagram using a QR code on the back of her phone. During the event, she asks people to DM her in the moment so she can match names to faces. That night, she screenshots the profiles of 4–5 people she truly wants to stay in touch with.
Then, she sends each of them a short, personalized video message. Not a generic “great meeting you”—a real, human hello that references their conversation. The result? People remember her. They feel seen. That connection has staying power.
The system behind the scenes
While it might look effortless from the outside, Angelica has built intentional systems to keep her network warm. She labels Instagram messages from potential clients as “leads,” uses DMs as a relationship-building tool, and makes sure to reference notes before a client session.
That level of care makes people feel known. And it’s not accidental—it’s a muscle she’s built, and a system she maintains.
Ask for what you want
The best part of this conversation? Angelica’s reminder that the people who get opportunities are often the ones brave enough to ask. If you want to photograph a destination wedding, say it. If you want to book a speaking gig, tell someone. If you want to be referred, ask for it.
Nobody knows what you want until you say it out loud.
Find It Quickly:
02:30 – Angelica’s Networking Insights
05:40 – Building Confidence in New Spaces
08:29 – Staying Grounded and Authentic
13:55 – Effective Follow-Up Strategies
15:53 – Sharing a Memorable Encounter
16:18 – The Power of Video Messages
17:30 – Staying Connected with Your Network
18:28 – Building a Personal System
21:42 – Facing Imposter Syndrome
25:36 – Overcoming Networking Myths
26:56 – Creating Your Own Opportunities
29:16 – The System Shutdown
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Julie: Welcome back to the System for Everything podcast. Today’s system tip networking, and not sure how to start a conversation. Try. Is that Bri Near the Snack Table Works every time today we have with us Angelica Pompe, a business coach, speaker and marketing strategist who helps creative women build profitable businesses with confidence and clarity through Angelica.
Pompe education. She teaches solid business foundations, streamlined systems and marketing that works. She’s also the founder of Pompe Portraits, a Jacksonville based studio specializing in bold maternity and boudoir photography. Whether she’s coaching, speaking, or behind the camera. Angelica empowers women in every season of life and business.
With strategy, soul, and plenty of encouragement. Welcome Angelica. Thank you for being here today.
Angelica: Yes, thank you so much. I’m so excited. When you asked me, I was like, yes, yes, and hell yes.
Julie: Oh my gosh. I adore you. We’re gonna start the way we always do it. This is to reboot a quick little reset to start our episode with some humor and humanity.
What is your go-to power outfit when you need to feel unstoppable?
Angelica: Uh, a good power suit, uh, man. And some heels. I’m, I’m outside, baby. You can’t tell me nothing.
Julie: What is your template for a perfect Saturday?
Angelica: Oh, a coffee shop outside and a little pastry and, mm-hmm. Nap for sure. Oh, yes. And, um, a good brunch.
Mm-hmm.
Julie: Ugh. Is my favorite food in the world. My wedding food was brunch food.
Angelica: Fine.
Julie: Um, what is a snack you could turn into a personality trait?
Angelica: Oh. Hmm. A snack. Um, let’s see. I’m gonna say I, I love those little mini, I’m a charcuterie board lover, huh? Yes. And so I tell people I have like those mini Lunchables that comes with like the crackers and the cheese, and I’m like, I’m a cheesy, but I’m a fun cheesy bitch.
Julie: Yes. I love it.
Angelica: So tired. I, I love, I like to be fun. Life is short and like I bring a lot of joy sometimes. My jokes don’t always hit. So it’s fine. Right?
Julie: They hit with me. That’s what counts.
Angelica: Good.
Julie: Alright everyone. You have met the personality. Now meet the powerhouse. Some people walk into a room and instantly belong.
Others become the reason the room feels electric. Angelica is one of those people known for her magnetic presence and ability to build genuine relationships with just about anyone. Angelica has mastered the art. Of getting in the room and what to do once you’re there. Here’s my conversation with Angelica on the system for getting in the room.
Okay. I wanna start by naming the thing you do. Oh, so well, you have a way of walking into a room and just making people feel like they have known you forever. I have experienced this. For somebody who has never felt that level of confidence or connection, how would you define what it means to. In the room.
Angelica: Yeah. I always tell people like when it comes to like talk abouting our services and promoting what we do, especially as an entrepreneur, it’s hard. We don’t do it often and when we do do it, we always get like frozen up. Am I saying the right thing? We, yes. Kinda overthink it and I tell people it’s one of those things you gotta practice to make perfect, right?
And every room you step in is different. Whether it’s like a room of your peers or rooms of potential clients. Um, and so my biggest advice is to tell people to just start getting out there and talking about your business. The more you talk about it, the more confident you are in like, you know, talking about what you do and how you serve.
Julie: What do you think people tend to misunderstand about what it really takes to be remembered and not just noticed?
Angelica: Yeah. Oh, okay. So the first thing is to be remembered. I always tell people, you don’t wanna be the loudest one in the room. Yes, I personally have a loud energy and like I’m energetic, but I’m not walking into somebody’s room and like, Hey everybody, I’m Angelica.
That’s not how I would do that.
Julie: Yeah. And
Angelica: that’s what people, I think they understand too. Like they like, oh, what do I do? I just come in here and like, what do I say? How do I say it? Um, and so to be noticeable, one of my favorite hacks. Actually is, I always wear my branding colors and so fun, right? Uh, so I always wear my branding colors.
I, my branding color for my photography business is like a mustard yellow. And I wear it every time I go out and they’re like, oh. They start recognizing that color with me anytime they see it outside of that networking event. And so that’s one of my hacks for like, showing up that’s so smart and getting noticeable.
Um, and then the other piece of that is look a little polished. Get dressed up when you feel good. When you feel good, you look good, and that will take that confidence to the next level. If you’re just running outta work and you’re coming from work, you know, in your scrubs to start marketing your business, just bring an extra set of clothes, bring your makeup bag really quickly, you know, touch up just a little bit, because that makes a world of a difference and people can feel that energy.
Like even if you are tired, you’re showing up for yourself and it makes a difference. To know, like, okay, I’m here being intentional to show up for my business. And you know, that change of clothes and a little bit of lip gloss will definitely change your vibe.
Julie: You have built so many connections simply by showing up as yourself.
But I mean, that’s obviously easier said than done. Mm-hmm. So have you always felt confident in new spaces or did that come with time?
Angelica: Oh, it definitely came with, with time. I vividly remember my very first time I stepped into a room and I was like sweating bricks. I was so, so sweaty and I was like nervous and in the corner.
And I know you’re probably thinking, no way, Angelica, this is not you. And I was like, I, I was 26 at that time in, in this space and I walked in and I was like, I don’t even know what to say, what to do. And it’s uh, it was very overwhelming. I was like. There’s, everybody’s walking around with business cards.
I didn’t, I didn’t know I needed to bring business cards. I’m like, this is a thing. Like people are still using business cards. And, um, I just like told myself in that moment, I’m here with an intention in mind, and my intention was to just bring brand awareness about poy portraits. I was just a year in business.
I didn’t know much of anything, really a business outside of like shooting photographs very well. That’s the only thing I was good at. Uh, and I had a little bit of a system, but I didn’t even have a CRM at that time. So like I was a baby in business and I really went into that space and it really was like, gave me perspective as a new business owner.
Of like, if I came in here and dealt my cards properly, I can make huge impact. And so that I love, that’s what I walked away with that lesson of like, okay, I need to come prepared and prepared for me would be, you know, business cards, um, have a pitch in my back pocket, have like go-to questions, which are all things now that I have kind of like complicated over time,
Julie: even though you have.
All of these networking events and things like that under your belt, what helps you stay grounded if you ever these days start to feel out of place?
Angelica: Yeah. I kind of go back to the root of if like the conversation starts to like feel just like, mm, I don’t know. I go back to the root of the people that I’m talking to.
So like of course we, I wanna talk to our, talk about our business, talk about our offerings, but I love to ask people, what do you love? And they’re like, what do you mean what do I love? Like what do you love to do? I love to go to the beach. I love to spend time with family. I love to read and like that’s gonna open up a can of worms where people feel seen and heard.
And oftentimes when we’re in these spaces, we’re not talking about ourselves. I mean, how often are we talking about ourselves in general? Not often.
Julie: Um, I’m more often than not am.
Angelica: Yeah.
Julie: Wait, am I a narcissist? No, I’m just kidding.
Angelica: Really? You’re crazy.
I love it. I love
Julie: it. I’m always gonna be, I’m gonna be everyone’s biggest hype person, but I’m especially gonna be my biggest hype person.
Angelica: Yeah. You’re, lemme tell you, you’re very rare in the breeds of people of entrepreneurship ’cause they don’t lie to talk about themselves. They’re like, um, what do I say?
How do I say it? I’m like, just speak from the heart. And I think that’s too. When we get into these rooms of networking, people strike, try to follow like a formula of some sort. Maybe they learned it somewhere. It’s just really be true to who you are. Like if you’re not an extrovert, don’t try to put on that front as being an extrovert in that room.
Be exactly who you are, like on camera versus like how you would be in person. And I think I see that a lot in the influencer world. Like you’ll meet these influencers online and then you meet them in person and it’s like. You are not the same kind of vibe and energy and Oh, people hear that about me.
They’re like, Angelica, you’re just like, how you are on camera and online is exactly how you are in person. I’m like, yeah, I’m not tired. I’m like the Energizer
buddy.
Julie: Yeah. That’s such a, and that’s such a great compliment.
Angelica: Mm-hmm. To
Julie: hear like, because you know, people don’t, you don’t get the compliment a lot.
Like, wow, you’re really genuine. But to hear like you are exactly like, who I thought you were gonna be, like, that’s pretty cool.
Angelica: Yeah, it’s fun. It’s fun. And I love, and I love to encourage people, like, you don’t have to be the extrovert queen to show up as you, you just, yeah. Do what, what feels good to you.
Like don’t go out too much outside of your comfort zone. Like if you don’t wanna, um, you know, you just wanna show your coffee slow mornings, you can do that. You don’t have to go on the stories and yap every day, you know, on social media. That’s, that’s what I like to do, you know?
Julie: Yeah. That’s Adriana from Ava and the B, she posts every single morning like what she’s doing that day and she posts a picture of her computer background and the toast that she’s eating.
It’s, I mean, she gets her face on her social media a fair amount too, but like the toast thing, everyone knows about it. Like that’s her thing. Like when she’s traveling she’s like, don’t worry, I still found my toast. ’cause people ask her about it. So I love that one. You just like really get to show up as yourself.
Yeah. How. How have you kind of learned to stay grounded and authentic, especially in rooms where it feels like at sometimes at networking stuff that everyone is just selling something.
Angelica: Yeah. Um, as far as being grounded, honestly, I try to be, I think I don’t get in much rooms like that anymore because I set an intention.
I ask myself, you know, what is my purpose of coming to this event? And I try to dig a little deeper because my time now is. Scarce. So if I’m going to a networking event, I really need to know some sort of details. Before, when I was newer to business, I would just get in every room. Um, but now with, you know, timing and all of this, I’m like, okay, what am I coming here to meet somebody specific To meet the guest speaker?
Yeah. You’re
Julie: more discerning.
Angelica: Yeah. Yeah, for sure. And so, yeah, I just remember like the root of why I am there to like kind of ground myself. Okay, this conversation is not going as planned, but let me see. I’m here to do market research today and ask my question and carry on. So going back to the root of like, why is my intention for that networking event?
Julie: I know from the outside it definitely seems like this all comes very naturally to you, and I know you’ve already spoken about the intention behind how you show up. So when you’re heading to an event these days, especially like if you’re by yourself, what kind of prep happens behind the scenes?
Angelica: Okay.
You’re probably gonna laugh at me, but I am like, I pull down my mirror. At first, I, I’m like, girl, I look like a snack. I like hype myself up.
Julie: Um, I love that. Also, you can just FaceTime me if you ever need me to hype you up. I got
Angelica: you. Yes, yes. I hype myself up. I put on a little gloss again. Lip gloss always makes the day better.
And then I really. Okay. Remember, what was my intention? What am I, what am I walking into this room with? Um, and making sure I like check my energy. I typically, my energy is always like, good, but like, okay, if I was having a bad day, I need to shake it off because nobody here needs to know that, and I don’t wanna spread that kind of energy in this space.
And then the other piece that I always have is like, open-ended questions in my back pocket. So that is so
Julie: smart.
Angelica: Like if the conversation gets kind of like, uh, awkward or like, it’s like, okay, what’s next? I have like these three go-to questions that I always go to, so that way I know if I feel stuck or like I wanna, you know, move on to another topic or discussion.
I have that in my back pocket.
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Julie: I think that that moment, after making all those connections, like I know I’ve been in rooms before where I’ve been like, we’re all gonna be best friends forever.
And then you go home and that’s where so many people drop the ball. So what is your approach for following up? Like, are you a dmr? Are you a voice note, girly calendar reminder type? Like how do you keep things warm without being like. Weird in putting pressure on people.
Angelica: Oh my gosh, I love this so much.
’cause I’m like you, I want everybody to be my friend. And I’m like, I’m only one person. So I need to be very selective of like who I let into my world and all of that. But my go-to and I love to spend time is like on social media. Specifically Instagram. Um, and so actually when I go to networking events, uh, the back of my phone is a QR code to my Instagram so I can connect with people.
So smart, quickly, smart fun, right?
Julie: I love
that.
Angelica: And so, yeah, I just change it. Obviously I don’t wanna see a QR code the entire time, but I just toggle it over and I tell people. Send me a DM so I can put face to name. Um, because I think the ais and the mini chats of the world for Instagram specifically, I think that human piece gets like lost in translation.
Yeah. And I really wanna tell them like, Hey, it’s me on the other side of this DM Instagram, like I’m running this. This platform. So, um, I tell them to send me a DM and they usually do right away. And I’m like, do it right now so you don’t forget. And they’re like, okay, okay. And then I go home that night. If they don’t send me a dm, I typically always screenshot their profile people that I actually wanna build a rapport with.
I don’t do this with every single person, but if I like vibe. Or our conversation. I want to kind of continue, I usually do this to about four or five people. Every time I go to a networking event, I meet tons of people at some events, but I really try to be selective. I’m like, who are those four or five people that stood out to me and that I wanna just continue to stay in their world, screenshot their profile that night of I send them a video message.
And you
Julie: did that to me and you were the first person I had ever seen do that. And I was like. And I like got home from the conference and I like showed my husband, I was like, oh, I met this girl day. And she’s like, she sent me a video. And then they like talked about you. I love that. I was like, I felt’s so cool.
I’m dead. I
Angelica: love that. So you loved it, right? Like
Julie: I did. I was like, what?
Angelica: Oh my God. So cool. And so I tell people like. Obviously a voice message is great too because you can still hear somebody’s tone, but there’s something about like, face to camera and hearing someone’s voice. Yes. And like, I, I’m not gonna lie, I show up online now, like, however, like whatever I feel that day, if I, my lashes are hanging off in the night before, I don’t give a damn.
I’m showing up today like a snack, and tomorrow I might be in a bonnet, you know? So I go on and when I send these video messages, sometimes I’m just like, tired. Yeah, you were
Julie: in your car.
Angelica: Yeah. See, there you go. I was like, oh my God. I can’t
Julie: believe I remember that.
Angelica: See, but in that, yeah, right. There is actually like a prime example of why I encourage people to send video message.
Mm-hmm. After a networking event, because you’re never gonna forget that moment. Like
Julie: yeah.
Angelica: That is like ingrained to you. Like, Angelica, the video girly and I’ll, I’m okay with that kind of memory because that was a good positive impact.
Julie: Oh, for sure.
Angelica: So, yeah, video message is the way to go. And typically in the video message I tell people, you don’t have to go in there and like share a novel.
I’m just like,
Julie: yeah, it was short.
Angelica: It was so nice to meet you. And by the way, I loved our conversation about X, Y, and z. Like, if you wanna tap in and talk more about that and yap, I’m here for you. And that’s it. That very simple of a message and it really goes a long way. And I’m, I’m actively on social media and that’s how I stay connected with most of my community.
Mm-hmm. Um, and then in my email list, I encourage them like, Hey, if you wanna stay in the know of like, you know, what’s happening and events and things, I usually share that on my. Email list, so join the email list and it’s pretty cool to get like a two for one, a new follow and somebody to do email list.
Yeah. So I’m not mad at it.
Julie: Do you have any kind of like system, like maybe like, uh, if a formal one or an informal one for remembering like who you met, what they care about, and like how to keep in touch with them? Or is does it just kind of all stay in your head and your heart?
Angelica: No, it’s not in my head, in my heart, or it, it would my head in my heart.
My head wouldn’t be, well, my heart would be happy, but my head not so much. Full transparency. Look, I, I barely remember what I ate yesterday, so I can, if I tell you who I met, you know, at the Creative Educator Conference,
Julie: that’s fair.
Angelica: Yeah. Yeah. Um, so my system is, I don’t necessarily like have like a formal like Google sheet or anything like that.
I did that at the beginning of my business. Mm-hmm. Um, because I was like really new to the industry of like photography and I wanted to be like, just really put name to face and like trying to remember like key people in my industry. But now with. Like how big my network is between both, like my coaching side of the world and photography.
Um, in that video message, I try to, I say their name, I say, where we met, it was so nice to meet you at the, you know, the Boca conference and coming to my class. So like key things that I know I can scroll back in our conversation. Smart. And rewatch it. And I keep the video in the chat. Don’t make it disappear.
Yeah. So I keep it in the chat so I can say, oh, how did we connect again? And then something new that I just started doing actually, uh, literally like last month, was if somebody’s expressing some sort of interest in like, working with me, rather that’s like the photography side or coaching, you can label your, uh, messages as a lead.
And so I’ll just shuffle through my leads once a week. What and see like, yeah, it’s, it’s a game changer.
Julie: This is why it’s a problem to be 81 and trying to be on Instagram. Dang it. So elderly.
Angelica: It’s fine. It’s so cool. And I was like, wow, this is really, really dope. And so, yeah, I have a list of like leads. So I just went to a conference for photography and some people expressed that they wanted like a VIP day to talk about their systems and like using their CRM to the max, uh, for their business.
And so I just marked them all as leads and in the next week or so, I’m gonna circle back and just like, Hey, I know we talked about this at the conference. You’ve had time to like, you know, download all the things and your brain needed a break, which. I personally also need a break from those. I need a moment to recalibrate.
Um, let’s, let’s talk about it. And so that way they don’t get lost in the sauce. I don’t need them to fill out a contact form or anything. We just need to have some preliminary discussion in the dms.
Julie: I think that so much of the magic that you bring to the table is the details that you remember and people just really feel seen by you.
Is that something you’ve always been good at or is that like a muscle you had to intentionally build?
Angelica: It was a must tool that I intentionally built, but I’ve also created a system around it. So like for my client, uh, consultations for photography, I make notes of what we talk about on the consult call, and I try to get a little, especially for what I do for boudoir, it’s a little bit more personal.
So I’m like, you know, tell me your story. And some people go really deep in details. Others are like, you know, I have. Three kids married I, those are still important details of that person that they shared, and I make note of it. And when they come into the studio and they’re getting their hair and makeup done, I mention those things and they’re like, how do you remember?
I’m like. I’ve looked at your chart or your, in the CRM before you came in, but I’m like, girl, I gotta, I don’t, I don’t serve a hundred people, you know, a month in my photography business. This is very routine. Yeah. I care, like, you know, and I genuinely do, but I have my system. Oh yeah. On the back end of like, okay, what do we talk about?
I wanna make sure I mention this in conversation. So having it to refer back to at some point is always key for me, whether that’s on the coaching side or the photography side.
Julie: I’ve gotten a lot better about, you know, getting my face and my name and myself out there and being in a room. Um, I’m still very, very selective, but I, it’s been a lot easier for me on the side of creative entrepreneurship and like Julie who does systems and Julie does the podcast, and Julie who does the death folder.
Then when it was Julie in the wedding world, I think that was a little harder for me ’cause I felt like it was a mold I didn’t fit. And so personally, I mean. I love a safe room where I know I’m gonna know much people. I got inside jokes with people, but I know the real growth can often happen when we’re in rooms that scare us a little.
Was there ever a room. That you walked into before you felt fully ready? And if so, what did that experience teach you?
Angelica: Yeah. Um, actually it was two years ago, the Creative Educator Conference. Oh. I was like,
Julie: shout out Lely.
Angelica: Shout out Lely. I love her so much. I, that was actually the year I launched. Um, it was six months after I launched education.
I was like, I wanna be an educator. I don’t even know what this looks like. I went into that room of 2024 and. I was like, I did all the things. I got my ticket. I signed up for a Lightning talk because I’m like, if I’m gonna be in this room, I’m doing it and I’m gonna push myself. And I got such great feedback from my Lightning Talk.
Um, and there was a lot of people that were speaking, or just like in the room, like sitting next to me that I looked up to in the industry. And I was like, the first day I was like. Like kind of basking in, like I get to be in the room with some really dope people, like very successful folks. And it’s like, I felt like little old me.
Do I belong here? I had that little imposter syndrome for a second. Like, yeah, girl, what’s happening? And I’m like, no, hold on. I need to really like dial in. And the second day that night, I went to my room and I was like, I need to write down all the questions that I, I want to approach people with. Because I was also trying to feel like, oh, that’s the vibe
Julie: was.
Angelica: And I was like, okay, everybody is so kind here. And the next day I went up to Hope Taylor, and she’s been somebody that I just, I love
Julie: her,
Angelica: I love her online, and I never met her in real life. So I was like, hi, fan girl. My name is Angelica. We don’t know each other, but I’ve been following you. And I just had a question and like, yeah, girl.
And it was about like,
Julie: I’m pretty sure that’s exactly how I approached her when I first met her in 2017. At at uh, creative at Heart.
Angelica: Really?
Julie: Oh my gosh, I’m pretty positive. That’s exactly like I, I was like, hi, sorry to be a can girl,
Angelica: so great. And I just asked her a system question and like how she manages like her marketing.
’cause I could, as a marketing expert, I can see like, man, she’s got it down packed, but like how on the back end are you managing this? And she’s like, yeah, I’ll show you my laptop. And she just like, opens up her laptop and shows me how Trello stop. That is so
Julie: generous.
Angelica: I was unwell, I was, my insides were like, oh my God, oh my God.
Do I, am I supposed to take notes? Can I take a picture? I’m gonna ask. I was like, whoa. And I’ve never experienced that before because I think in the, especially in the educator space, a lot of people gate keep and I’m not like that. Yeah. This was my, again, first time being around like high profile business owners, people that have been doing this, and I’m just like, I was like, can I take a picture of this?
Is that okay? She’s like, yeah, girl, take a video. Like, what? Do you have questions? I’m like, can I, let me see, I, I whipped on my notebook. So yeah, I still experience this even as a seasoned business owner. Um, and that was vividly like one of my last memories of like. Okay. Is this a space that I can be still Angelica, like, and be myself and ask the questions and do all my normal, like, networking things?
And like by day two, I was, I I got it together. I was like, I needed a day to like calibrate though.
Julie: Yes. I think there’s a lot of, you know, I mean. Insta Bros and LinkedIn and stuff. There’s tons of recycled advice about networking that just feels like very exhausting or maybe outdated. Mm-hmm. So what is a piece of quote unquote classic networking wisdom that you think is totally overrated or just like flat out wrong?
Angelica: Yeah. Oh. So I know back in the day people would be like, send an email follow up. And I’m like,
Julie: please
Angelica: don’t. Yeah. But no, no. Especially in like the creative space. I don’t know about you, queen, but look, I get in my inbox, it better be some important shit, or I’m not responding like, or I’m sending it to my virtual assistant.
Handle this and I, I think, yeah. With how social media is so accessible now at people’s fingertips, like how can we make it more personal? And so I tell people, if you are networking for more like your corporate business or you’re in the corporate space email, yes. But you can still do that personal touch of like a voice memo or a video attached to it to some caliber.
Julie: Yeah.
Angelica: I think social media does what it needs to do right now as far as like connecting with people post. So sending somebody an email in the creative space specifically, I don’t know that it’s helping us. It’s just adding another thing to open up and read.
Julie: Oh, a hundred percent. That’s so good. All right.
Yeah. Finally, for the person listening who is waiting, waiting to feel ready. Waiting to be invited, waiting to feel qualified. What would you say to them about creating opportunities instead of waiting for one to arrive?
Angelica: Hmm. My biggest thing is ask. Nobody knows Yes. What you want until you ask. I just talked about this in my membership.
It’s one of my students was like, you know, I really wanna do destination weddings and all these things, and I’m like, I’ve never seen you ask. Just go on social media and tell people, Hey, I wanna do a destination wedding. If that’s you, message me, I’ll wave the travel fee. You know how many people jump on that?
Like, but my gosh, gosh, yeah. Nobody know you wanna do it until you ask. And I’m like, she was like, no way. That’s so simple. I’m like, we just need to ask sometimes.
Julie: That is such good advice, and I push that on people all the time. Like I, I love that. Like, yes. I mean, literally the worst somebody can do is say no.
Yeah, that’s, that’s the worst that’s gonna happen.
Angelica: And I literally tell people like, the no is the next opportunity. Like, yes, don’t let that stop that, stop you from moving forward and be like, okay. She said, no, let’s try it again, and let’s ask the question a different way, or let’s do something a little different still on the same goal, uh, angle.
Julie: I love that. All right, Angelica, please tell everyone where they can find you online and how they can work with you.
Angelica: Yes, yes. You can find me on Instagram, Facebook, website, Angelica Pompy. That’s A-N-G-E-L-I-C-A-P-O-M-P y.com. And yeah, I have a membership called Business Church. It is a space for female entrepreneurs to feel inspired and empowered to show up for their business and marketing.
And I pour into that community online. So if that is something that you’re interested in, send me a message. And for all of the listeners, I have a little gift, a free networking work. Book that will walk you through the steps to make you feel confident and stand on business the next time you walk into your next room.
So that is my gift for all of you.
Julie: That is so wonderful. That will be linked in the show notes, everyone. And we will also put it on Instagram. Um, so you can sign up for Angelica’s email list and download that I’m on her email list. It is good stuff. All right. It is time to shut our system down with a gain because while Angelica has actual strategies for getting in the room.
I somehow keep finding myself in networking moments I didn’t plan for. So today we’re playing two truths and a lie accidental networking edition. Okay? I’m gonna tell you three stories of places I have accidentally networked. Two of them are completely true. One of them is a total lie. I will reveal the fake one over on Instagram, but for now, see if you can guess which is which.
The bathroom line at the airport. The line was pretty long, and the woman behind me made a joke about how this was the real networking hub, and we laughed. I mean, it was mostly a fake laugh. It wasn’t a very good joke, but then we just kept talking. 10 minutes later, we were deep in conversation about client onboarding systems, and I walked outta that bathroom with a referral, an Instagram follow, and an overwhelming urge to rehydrate.
Instagram over a mutual hatred of a specific influencer. You know how you see someone post a story and you’re just like, Ugh, this again. Well, someone dmd me a post from a very curated influencer and just said, I cannot with this woman, and I instantly knew we were soulmates. That turned into a real friendship and client referrals.
Brought to you by Petty Bonde, and finally, a girl at a bar who was dating the same guy as me. We were both at the same dive bar, sipping drinks, complaining about flaky dudes. One thing leads to another, and we realized we were talking about the same dude. After a shared moment of pure horror and the world’s most awkward cheers, we ended up exchanging Instagram handles and now we refer clients to each other.
I mean, he’s long gone, obviously, but the networking state, I will post the answer on Instagram stories. So Comcast cast your vote and let us be your reminder. Every room has potential, even if it’s the bathroom. Big thanks to Angelica for reminding us that getting in the room isn’t about having the perfect pitch or knowing the right people.
It’s about being brave enough to show up as yourself again and again. If this episode gave you a little boost of courage or a new way to think about connection, I’d love it if you would share it with a friend, leave a review, or. Host it on Instagram and tag me at Dallas Girl Friday. That is how we get this show in the room.
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